Strugglers: the homosexualist blind-spot? March 21, 2011Posted by Rasheed Eldin in Ex-Gay, Homosexualists.
Exodus International, a Christian organisation, has produced a smartphone app that has drawn predictable criticism from homosexualist quarters. According to David Allison of Outrage: “It creates the wrong attitude if you try to persuade people there is a choice and it can be cured like an ailment or an illness, as if you need to be. It isn’t: you are born with it, live with it and die with it.”
Allow me to give a voice to someone who would, in the homosexualist paradigm, be classed as “gay”, but whose opinions, feelings and preferences in life are considered by such campaigners as irrelevant. This is a comment from a young man on the StraightStruggle group:
Perhaps someone should tell David Allison that, conversely, he is creating the wrong attitude by telling people they are born with it, live with it and die with it.
The irony is that when it comes to people seeking growth and healing beyond homosexuality, people like him do not offer the same options for freedom of choice and expression that he would demand for those like himself who wish to embrace the homosexual lifestyle. It’s completely hypocritical. In a society where I can legally pay for a sex change, drink my liver out and have unprotected sex with a stranger – the same evil forces that would support such behaviours would prevent me from seeking psychological growth into my existing biological potential.
David Allison, you were born with the potential to make sperm, you live your life making sperm, and you will die making sperm. Do you think your body’s trying to tell you something?
Why do the gays hate the ex-gays so much? What deep nerve is our presence striking that makes them so vicious in condemning us?
It’s a damn good question.
I place a lot of emphasis on proper terminology, as the issues are tricky enough without getting muddled up by loose words. I have critiqued the term “ex-gay” on several grounds, but I’ll add another: it’s used by homosexualists to push those ‘cranks’ out of their fold for daring to want something different for themselves other than homo-orthodoxy. Worse still, they are ‘extremists’ and anyone who offers them the support they seek is likewise a bigoted ‘homophobe’. This stance is rife with contradictions.
For the title of this post I’ve used a term adopted by some in this situation, who think of themselves as strugglers against their desires and inclinations for the sake of Allah. I think this is quite fitting, as it evokes the connotations of the Islamic concept of Jihad (righteous struggle).
This blog is about promoting correct teachings of Islam, which can be universally understood and not just by “straight” or “gay” people. Some writers struggle – or have struggled – with same-sex attractions, others don’t. It really doesn’t matter, as I’ve pointed out repeatedly to people evidently inclined to ad hominem argumentation.
Yet even if it does matter, why are the voices of people who do understand intimately what it’s like to be “gay” – as they say – still rejected as crazy? Is there only one way to be gay?