I don’t think there is any gap in my use of reason, but you seem to be confusing reason with materialism, which in my opinion is not at all a reasonable position. In any case, that debate is best had at any general Islamic/religious forum and not in a specific discussion on Islam and sexuality.

If people and all religions used reason, we would NOT have such problems. It seems religions are often unloving and even cruel. So many in society make gays and lesbian miserable (in the name of religion or Allah or Jesus or whomever). The incidence of suicide among gay and lesbian teens is 2 to 3 times as high compared to straight people.
Is your God really loving? Use some reason please. If he is loving then you should look at your interpretations.
Religion often serves to throw reason out the window!

If you are someone who is struggling with homosexual desires and want to keep in your mind that Allah will give you such-and-such reward for your patience in this life, I say go ahead and imagine that, and Allah will either give you exactly that or something with which you will be much more pleased than you ever imagined!

As for the idea that everyone will receive exactly the same rewards and be like “Automatons”, that is not the case and I don’t see any evidence for it.

Anyway, wouldn’t Allah, who is almighty, be able to give the people of paradise anything they want and make it for them so it wasn’t harmful or ‘filthy’ anymore?

From what I’ve read about paradise it seems as though all people will have the same kinds of rewards (of course I understand those who are more ‘righteous’ will have a few more rewards) almost like they’ll all become the same. I find the thought of becoming an Automoton as frightening as burning for an eternity.

I see a difference between homosexuality on one hand, and wine/gold/silk on the other. The harm in wine is the intoxication, and the wine in Paradise is not intoxicating. Gold and silk are not filthy, as they are permitted to women in this world. Compare these facts with the way in which homosexual acts are condemned in the Qur’an and Sunnah.

“I take the oath of that Being who sent me with the truth; you are not more acquainted with your wives and houses than the people of Jannat. A person of Jannat will come to 72 wives whom Allah specially created in Jannat (hûrs) and 2 human wives. The human wives will have virtue over the [hûrs] because they worshipped Allah in the world” (Targheeb Vol.4 Pg.534)

Just a thought but wine is forbidden in this life as is the wearing of gold and silk for men but it will be permitted to those in paradise, by your logic surely people wouldn’t want these things upon entering paradise either!

That’s an interesting comment, but I will politely disagree with the idea that our goal is to “kill” the physical desires. Rather, our Prophet (pbuh) taught us to restrain and guide them to what is halal, and thus experience divinely gifted joys in this life, a vanishing fraction of what is promised in the Hereafter.

I would like that everyone look at their nafs. A, If it (love, desire) comes from Nafess, stomach. It is just like a gas. It smell very bad. It makes us uncomfortable. It takes away all good experiences. One gets in a bad mood and one must go to toilet. (gay relations, lustful relations, etc.)
B, If it (love,desire) comes from Aqhel, brain. It is mostly from shytan. It is very selfish feeling. It sees only it self and self interest. One must be slap on the face to weak up.
C, If it (love, desire) comes from Qhalb, heart, it is spiritual. All it’s feelings are from Allah (swt). A sense of gratefulness, appreciation, patience and submission.

Clearly, we all live with a strong connection to our ego (conscious life) and many of our desires come from there and our brains which is the breeding ground of the shaytan.
If we are allowed into heaven it will only be our rouhee (spirit, qhalbi) and not our ego and brain which is just physical and chemical, electrical.

the purpose of this life is not to follow our physical desires but to kill them so that our spirit (rouhee) can be realized in this life.
may Allah help us all.