Thank you for sharing your thoughts civilly. Any fair reader of this site would observe that we are happy to engage in dialogue with people who disagree with us, indeed I believe the majority of comments are critical in one way or another. The only things we (usually) don’t approve are messages shouting at us to stop believing in the Qur’an, because that is pointless and offensive.

You’ve made some speculations about the basis of our religion, comparing perhaps to what you know about other religions or how people talk about them, but really I don’t go along with the idea that Islamic laws are nebulous and open to *any* interpretation. Any claim must be backed up with evidence, and Islam has a very advanced system of examining evidential claims. So, for example, the fact that homosexual acts are forbidden is crystal clear, and my saying that requires evidence (provided elsewhere of course). If someone claims otherwise, let him dispute our evidence and provide his own (which we debate about on this site when anything is forthcoming, however weak).

Since you are calling for respect, how about getting past characterising our position as all about “hate”? If you stop making our differences all a matter of “love” on your side and “hate” on mine, perhaps we can address actual facts.

- I don’t believe that it’s “hateful” to advise someone that what they’re doing angers the Creator Who will be judging them for eternity – even supposing I’m mistaken.

- I don’t accept that it’s “hateful” to clarify the mistakes made by people justifying and promoting these actions among Muslims.

- I reject the idea that it’s “hateful” to counter the efforts of people trying to normalise sin and destruction of values in our community.

See the following:
http://gaymuslims.org/2009/12/19/the-caller-to-allah-is-not-an-oppressor/

In any case, while I agree with you that homosexuality (as in actions based on homosexual desire) are definitely forbidden by Islam, it’s not true to assert that someone who is guilty of this sin is no longer a Muslim.

See for example:
http://gaymuslims.org/2006/05/22/the-dangers-of-denial/

I feel for your struggle, I really do, but the real struggle is to stay within the limits of what Allah has permitted, not to redefine religion to match how you suppose He has created you, thanks to the propaganda of homosexualists. See here for more discussion:
http://gaymuslims.org/2007/07/15/why-hate-what-god-created/

Let me point out a fundamental flaw in your thought process. You said:
“As I grew up it became more transparent and I could not get myself to show any real affection to girls except for just normal friendship.
“The pain of finding out that I will be going to hell wasn’t a very good feeling.”

Who told you that you’ll go to hell for not being attracted to women?? Nobody is punished for their feelings alone, but based on actions and their associated intentions. See here:
http://gaymuslims.org/2006/03/08/are-we-going-to-hell/

At this blog we support absolutely any sincere Muslim who is afflicted by same-sex attraction, and advise them to take a path of obedience to Allah, which for many people means abstinence, but for others can lead to becoming as they wish to be, and marrying according to the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (SAW).

I wish this for you, but the first step is to realise the severe sin of claiming to be a “proud gay Muslim”.

First of all, who are these “good scholars” whose re-interpretation you’re so impressed with? Name names and we can provide detailed responses to their research, Allah willing.

The idea that the story of Sodom in the Qur’an is about rape is baseless and nonsensical, as discussed in this post and its comments:
http://gaymuslims.org/2007/02/23/why-were-the-sodomites-destroyed/

Eunuchs are not gays, but they are castrated males and completely irrelevant to your argument.

I don’t know what you’re trying to prove regarding Abu Hurayrah (RA), since as far as the biographies I’ve consulted state, he indeed had a wife!

You said: “But if a man genuinely has no desires for women and have the love and compassion for a man only, then as far as I have learnt, he is allowed to enter that union.”
– But of course you will never find an example of that from the time of the Prophet (SAW) or otherwise approved of by the Muslim leaders.

Please brother, be careful in how you try to define Allah (SWT) for the sake of your desires. Allah is “non-judgemental”, you say, while Allah is indeed the Judge, who forgives as He wills but also punishes whomever He wills?

You say “Allah loves all His creation, no matter what,” which contradicts what the Qur’an tells us in numerous places, such as 2:190, 2:276, 3:32, 3:57, 3:140, 4:36, 4:107, 5:64, 5:87, 6:141, 7:31, 7:55, 8:58, 16:23, 22:38, 28:76, 28:77, 30:45, 31:18, 42:40, 57:23.

Look these up, in your research. I am assuming you don’t speak Arabic so at least consult a translation. But don’t rush to make your own brand of religion because of your “gay pride”.

I always knew that I was gay.
Since 5 years old I remember how painful it was trying to force myself not to think of other boys in a different way.

As I grew up it became more transparent and I could not get myself to show any real affection to girls except for just normal friendship.

The pain of finding out that I will be going to hell wasn’t a very good feeling.

I remember thinking… what if I rather kill myself instead because either way, I’ll be going to hell….

But I knew that Allah would never put anything in my way that I could not handle and He is all merciful and certainly would not create me with these feelings and this way, if he didn’t have a plan for me….

For 25 years I have been hoping that this will change and for 25 years have I prayed that Allah show me the path that is meant for me.

I don’t know how it happened but all I knew was that I couldn’t live this lie and secret any longer. It made me drift further away from Islam and Allah.

I started using drugs, clubbing, partying, alcohol and seeing guys in secret. I started becoming the total opposite of who I really should be and I slowly started resenting Allah for who I am and who He created.

So I then realised that this is not what I want. I wanted the life of a muclim again and I wanted to Love Allah the way I should be.

Alhamdulillah, it is about a year and 9 months now and I am grateful that Allah accepted me back as a good muslim and I am grateful that Allah has helped me through my struggle thus far.

I am now a proud Gay muslim.

And I have gone through a very knowlageable journey thus far…. It is only the beginning. My brother is a maulana and he disowned me and so did most of my family but what really matters today is that I have Islam and Al Quran in my life again.

I am able to make duah for them and I am able to ask Allah to forgive them too for the abuse I’ve had to undergo because of their anger.

I believe that I am a chosen muslim and that Allah loves me no matter what….

My dream is to become a scholar and activist someday. Unfortunately because of some things I’ve had to go through I am unable to do so but I strive everyday to be part of the change in this world, even if I just touch one person’s heart and help them come close to Allah again no matter their sexual identity.

And I really thank all those Imaanat and scholars that researched the Quaran and Hadeeth and came forth with the correct revelations.

Remember, the Quran cannot change, so whatever is stated in the Quran is Haqh. if something is not written in the Quran, then it is not.

The sad part of it all is that so many muslims out there are still so afraid to come out with this because they fear losing their deen.

No one gives anyone else the right to say that He or She is not muslim. I believe that those who are muslim today, are the ones that Allah has chosen to be muslim.

Don’t live up to Allah’s status. Let Allah keep all the power because Allah is all powerful. Stop trying to be on His level.