“What do you mean when you say that homosexuality as an identity is a debatable concept?”

- I mean that some people with same-sex attraction decide that they “are” gay, and that’s “who I am”, an inseparable part of identity. People can define themselves as they please, but the problem is when this ruling is extended to others. So they say “if you have SSA you *are* gay” etc., and that is unfair on a person who does not wish to be defined by some particular feeling, inclination, or problem that they are struggling with. Then, coupled with the odd notion that it’s “wrong to change who you are”, it becomes a pseudo-religious doctrine that people should accept that they *are* homosexuals and should behave accordingly.

“I guess you are saying that the origin of one’s sexual orientation could be debated as either made through nature or made through nurture?”

- In either case, the matter is the same. Even if it’s somehow due to nature (genetics), then it could be called part of “genetic identity”, no more. I don’t believe a person is defined by his or her physical characteristics, let alone the thoughts that cross their mind. We are what we choose to be, and choose to do.

I guess you are saying that the origin of one’s sexual orientation could be debated as either made through nature or made through nurture?

I would like to know how these people in the documentary discovered that they were homosexual. Researching the the history and psychological aspects of these people’s lives would really help us understand how they rationalize the lifestyle of being gay and being Muslim at the same time. Of course I am not talking about a practicing homosexual, because that point has obviously already been proven.

If we truly want to help these people, we have to look at what started this disease (and yes I am referring to homosexuality as a disease), and rid them of the evil that lurks within them causing temptations to do haraam. I call it a disease because it is no different than alcoholism as a disease, or any other addiction for that matter.

I agree with you Rasheed, in the sense that we can be more efficient as a community if we try to understand these people’s feelings through better communication, open hearts, and open minds.

I got stress thinking day adn night that I am sinner and I am not able to change myself.

If you have follow-up questions, please ask them there.

your article is rather confusing – are you suggesting that people ought to overcome temptation if they are attracted to the same sex?

Far earlier? I thought that not long ago some people out there sure expected their daughters to have far more sexual awareness that early because they were marrying off these girls at age 9.